A lot of people think boundaries are what you say to other people. But in many ways it’s actually what you believe about yourself. Because it’s really hard to hold a boundary if you’re not sure you’re allowed to or deserve to have one in the first place.

One of the most significant hurdles couples face is having mismatched values. When career aspirations, family priorities, financial beliefs, or even spiritual views differ, misunderstandings and conflicts arise that are tough to navigate. Tough, but not hopeless.