Hearing a boundary from your partner can feel… uncomfortable.

Even if they say it kindly. Even if you know it’s not an attack. Even if you want to be supportive. It’s still easy to feel like you’ve done something wrong… or like they’re pulling away.

But boundaries aren’t a rejection. They’re actually an attempt to stay connected in a way that feels safe, respectful, and real.

Not everyone feels “in the mood” right away… and that’s completely normal.

There’s this widespread idea that sexual desire should just show up out of nowhere, like flipping on a light switch. But for many people, that’s simply not how it works. And when we don’t talk about that openly, it’s easy to internalize the belief that something in us, or in our relationship, is broken.

But what if I told you that your sex drive doesn’t tell the whole story?

Can marriage counseling make things worse? It's a question I often get and one that makes a lot of sense. I mean, why do it if it could be bad, right? So let's talk about the potential risks and rewards of diving into therapy for your marriage.

While the 'roommate syndrome' can be a challenging phase in a relationship, it's not a dead end but rather a call to action.